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How To Know It's Actually True Love

Love is a pretty powerful drug. When you feel it, you  really  feel it. It can suspend time, making the whole world seem still except for you two. It feeds you more than any nourishment; you feel full in the presence of love. But there's a vast difference between love and  true  love. True love knows no depth. It's an endless tunnel that sweeps you up in the whirlwind and you're never quite free from it. It stays with you. And you hope this person will too. True love isn't ordinary. It doesn't come around often and that's how you'll know it's genuine. ....Or, you know, you could read this list and find out for yourself. Here are the 21 signs you are  truly in love  with your partner: 1. You see something and instead of thinking how happy it makes you, you think about how happy it would make them. 2. You feel more at home with them than you've ever felt in your entire life. Even when you were 7 and had all the stuffed animals in t...

5 Keys of Dealing with Workplace Conflict

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Here’s the thing - leadership and conflict go hand-in-hand.   Leadership   is a full-contact sport, and if you cannot or will not address conflict in a healthy, productive fashion, you should not be in a leadership role. From my perspective, the issues surrounding conflict resolution can be best summed-up by adhering to the following ethos; ” Don't fear conflict; embrace it - it's your job. ” While you can try and avoid conflict (bad idea), you cannot escape the conflict. The fact of the matter is conflict in the workplace is unavoidable. It will find you whether you look for it (good idea – more later) or not. The ability to recognize conflict, understand the nature of the conflict, and to be able to bring a swift and just resolution to conflict will serve you well as a leader – the inability to do so may well be your downfall. How many times over the years have you witnessed otherwise savvy professionals self-destruct because they wouldn’t engage out of a fear ...

Five Simple Tips To Advance Your Career

There are a few standard  career management  tips I recommend to every professional, regardless of position, industry, experience level or future ambitions. These things are super easy to do and they help ensure you’re taking at least a minimally active role in your professional development. No matter how busy you are, there’s just no excuse to ignore these tips. Get started NOW. 1. Keep your resume up-to-date. You never know when opportunity will knock. Even if you don't actively job searching, your resume should always be ready to go so you don’t get stuck making last-minute updates. Your resume is one of the most important documents you have to offer so you don’t want to rush it or ignore it for years on end. If you haven’t looked at it since starting your current job, pull it out, brush off the dust and add the relevant information. If you’re not extremely proud of it, keep working. Your resume is no place to slack off. Now—while you’re not in a panic searchi...

Sheldon's Body Personality

Sheldon noted three personalities based on their physical make-up. Endomorph The Endomorph is physically quite 'round', and is typified as the 'barrel of fun' person. They tend to have: Wide hips and narrow shoulders, which makes them rather pear-shaped. Quite a lot of fat spread across the body, including upper arms and thighs. They have quite slim ankles and wrists, which only serves to accentuate the fatter other parts. Psychologically, the endomorph is: Sociable Fun-loving Love of food Tolerant Even-tempered Good-humored Relaxed With a love of comfort And has a need for affection Ectomorph The Ectomorph is a form of the opposite of the Endomorph. Physically, they tend to have: Narrow shoulders and hips A thin and narrow face, with a high forehead A thin and narrow chest and abdomen Thin legs and arms Very little body fat Even though they may eat as much as the endomorph, they never seem to put on weight (much to the endomorph...

The 3 Important Rules of Communication

In any language, there are three extremely important points to remember when you’re communicating with someone. 1. Say what you mean.  It can be difficult to express (say) some ideas clearly, but if you’re trying to prevent miscommunication, it’s important to say exactly what you mean. Be clear and to the point. 2. Ask questions.  Communication is two-way, which means you can’t be the one doing all the talking. To make sure your listener is  engaged  (interested in what you have to say) and understanding you, ask questions. See #5 below for good types of questions to ask. 3. Listen.  We mean  really  listen. Hear what your speaking partner has to say, and try to understand what they mean. Following all three of these rules will make you excellent at communicating in English (and probably in your native language as well). Of course, as an English learner, you might have a hard time communicating in English becau...

8 Things to Do on Your First Day at a New Job

The first day of a new job presents a chance to make a good impression on the people you’ll (hopefully) be working with for years to come. Of course, you’ll want to ask smart questions, meet your colleagues, learn the office layout, and get your desk organized, but there are some more subtle ways you can set yourself apart as an exciting addition to the team from the moment you walk into a new work environment. Here’s the best advice HR pros, executive coaches, and career counselors have on nailing day one at your new gig.   1. Define success in your new role. The key to doing an amazing job? Knowing exactly what's expected of you. There’s no better time to find out just what that is than on your very first day. “Ask your boss how your success will be measured and over what time frame,” advises Roy Cohen, a career counselor, and executive coach. “Without context and expectations, you will have no clue as to deliverables, the time required to come up to sp...

Blurred lines: Setting boundaries at work

Success in the workplace depends on your ability to relate effectively to people. Research shows that 60 to 80 percent of all difficulties in organizations stem from strained relationships between employees, not from deficits in an individual employee's skill or motivation.¹ Difficult workplace relationships are far more than a nuisance; they can cause anxiety, burnout, clinical depression, and even physical illness. Healthy relationships at work can propel you to great heights of achievement; dysfunctional or toxic ones will tether you to mediocrity. When we mismanage relationships, the fall-out affects productivity and quite possibly our ability to advance. Your success at work depends on your ability to set the kinds of boundaries that encourage mutual respect and keep the focus on productivity. Seven tell-tale signs of a toxic relationship You're in a toxic professional relationship with a boss or peer when they: 1. Stifle your talent and limit your opportu...

How To Stay Motivated During School

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Since we're now moving into next semester, it becomes easier to lose interest or motivation for school. This is when a lot of students stop going to class as much and set their minds on summer a little too early. This is also when grades start going down. If you can relate to any of these senioritis symptoms, these tips are for you. 1. Exercise Staying fit will not only get you a hot summer body but can also keep your mind focused on school and prevent that sluggish midday feeling.  2. Eat regularly Along with exercise, eating regularly will help you focus better in class. A growling stomach can be pretty distracting for you and the people around you. Try eating healthy snacks in between meals. 3. Stay social Good friends can be great motivators. You and your group can encourage each other when school starts weighing you down. 4. Hobby While school is your main priority right now, you should also have something on the side that you enjoy doing. This gives y...

Learn to Love Yourself First

Most psychologists will agree that being loved and being able to love is crucial to our happiness. Sigmund Freud once said, “love and work … work and love. That’s all there is.” But for many, the search for love causes a great deal of frustration and unhappiness. And what about self-love and its significance to our quality of life? Whether you’re single, happily in a relationship, or in an “it’s complicated” couple, it’s our relationship with ourselves that sets the foundation for all of our other interactions and is the secret to having fulfilling and healthy intimate relationships. Self-love is not the same as being narcissistic or selfish. Rather, self-love means having positive regard for our own wellbeing and happiness. When we adopt an attitude of self-love, we have higher levels of self-esteem, we’re less critical and harsh with ourselves when we make mistakes, and we’re able to celebrate our positive qualities AND accept our negative ones. For the month of Febru...