How to Be At Peace with Yourself

We all have something to regret in life. No matter how successful you are, you will always have something to worry and stress about. If only I had a bigger house, if only I had a better job, if only I was successful or had a peaceful relationship – it’s never ending. There will always be something to drain you of your positive energy, thereby making it difficult to achieve inner peace.

Only when you are at peace with yourself, can you be at peace with the world outside. Face your problems and put a stop to your inner turmoil. Know that there are certain things in life that are out of your control. Set yourself free from your inner turmoil and make peace with yourself.

When we face what torments us, we put a stop to our inner turmoil. Give yourself permission to be imperfect. Come to terms with your feelings of regret and don’t beat yourself up over situations you can’t control. Be at peace with yourself and set yourself free from the past.

 The first step towards attaining inner peace is to realize that everything is out of your control, except your life and the choices you make. To be at peace with yourself, you need to be more contented in your life.

 Here are a few tips that will help you to be at peace with yourself to attain inner peace:

1. Create a list of things you love about yourself and want to change. Make a list of traits you love about yourself and the qualities you would want to cultivate. Although creating such a list could be difficult. For instance: Do you want to see yourself as more tolerant, fairer and calmer? What principles or values do you wish to see in yourself.

  2. Do the right thing. Are you struggling to act with integrity all the time? Whenever you find it difficult to stick to your principles or find yourself making mistakes, do whatever you feel is right at the moment. Practice doing the right thing all the time so that it becomes easy for you to stick to your principles.

3.Identify your core values. Identify the things that are important to you and live your life in accordance with these values – the values that you believe in. By doing this, you are being yourself instead of satisfying someone else’s needs, expectations and demands.

4. Don’t compromise yourself. Don’t compromise yourself to be liked. You will be liked by others but you will loath yourself. Don’t work at being popular or being liked, aim at being yourself. It’s much easier. 

5.Live in the moment. When you refuse to let go of your past and are anxious about your future, it keeps you from enjoying the present moment. It is less overwhelming and overburdening when you just focus on today and bother less about yesterday and tomorrow. Enjoy each moment as it comes.

 6. Learn to accept people the way they are. Accept the fact that there are many things in your life that will not change no matter what you do. There might be traits that you do not have or are against your nature, reconcile yourself to that. Accept that there are people who, despite your attempts, will not change and will not be the way they ought to be. You do what you can. Learn to accept the way things are. Avoid getting frustrated and irritated and stop being in conflict with yourself.

7.Don’t try to be a perfectionist. When you make mistakes, don’t beat yourself up and make yourself feel worse. Validate your efforts and motivate yourself to do better. Allow yourself to be imperfect and make mistakes.

8. Learn to smile. Peace comes to you more easily when you smile. Smile helps you to feel better and stops negativity from reaching you. For instance: The next time when you make a mistake, try to smile and laugh at yourself. You will notice that smile will allow the resentment and bitterness to melt away. Don’t hesitate in making fun of yourself.

 9.Don’t allow others to make you feel small, guilty or insecure. Nobody has the right or permission to make you feel guilty and small. If someone is treating you badly or making you feel bad about yourself, you have given them the permission to do so.

10.Meditate. Meditation helps you to be calm and composed. Meditation helps you to be in control of your thoughts and emotions. With regular meditation, you will be able to decrease obsessive thinking. It enables you to keep things in perspective and make accurate judgments. Your anxiety, tension and all other unnecessary emotions make way for positive thoughts. So start meditating to change your life for the better. 

11.Never lose hope. Hope leads to peace. When you are shrouded with worry and stress, you forget to be hopeful. When you have hope deep within your heart, you know everything will be alright. You know that although things are terrible at the moment, your problems are temporary and that soon enough things will be back to normal. 

12Embrace your beliefs wholeheartedly. Embracing your beliefs and having a solid faith will help you find your inner peace. Your faith will guide you to peace and wisdom. Believing in something wholeheartedly will increase the quality of your life, as when you believe in something, it leads to more inner peace.
 13. Do what you enjoy. When you do what you enjoy, inner peace arises within yourself. Explore life to find out things you enjoy or love doing. Try things out and see how things are when you actually do them. This will help you identify new things.

14.Document your thoughts. Write down your thoughts and emotions in a diary daily. Just pour your heart out. Later on, just look at them when you are in good mood. Try to make sense out of your thoughts and emotions. Usually when you are depressed or stressed out, you fail to look at the good things in your life. Create gratitude posts in your journal. Write about things that you are grateful for in life. These gratitude posts will remind you of the good things in your life when you are low and depressed.

15Be there with your peace. Be still with the peace that arises after pondering over your thoughts. Appreciate the peace that comes by when you become courageous and brave enough to acknowledge your inner turmoil. The most important thing is to stay on till the inner peace arises.

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