10 Ways to Cultivate the Alpha Personality for Success
The only thing standing between you and your dreams is yourself.
Specifically, it is your personality. A common dictionary definition
explains a personality as: “The pattern of collective character,
behavioral, temperamental, emotional, and mental traits of a person.” Or
in more simple terms, your personality is the expression of the way you
think and act. An alpha personality has its roots in ethological
studies; in hierarchical social animals, the alpha male or female would
enjoy preferential access to food and other desirable activities. Alphas
would lead and be followed by the pack in any resettling journeys. In
human society and culture, the role of the alpha male or female is very
much similar. The alpha personality not only embodies the collective
values and virtues for success, but spearheads through unchartered
waters and acts as a pioneer for not only their own personal success,
but that of everyone else.
Here are ten ways you can begin to cultivate an alpha personality:
1. It All Starts With A Vision
There are no words that can fully convey the power that lies in creating a clear vision in your mind for the future reality that you desire. Successful people of various backgrounds, such as professional athletes, use visualization—replaying the successful outcome that they desire before they step out to engage in the specific activity. See yourself as embodiment of the alpha personality—the successful, confident, charismatic person who naturally captures the attention of everyone in the ro
2. Work on Your Posture
Amy Cuddy gives an incredible Ted Talk with
almost ten million views on this subject. In the talk, she describes
evidence which supports the idea that your body language shapes who you
are. If you go about your daily life with your head down and a hunched
back, these are subordinate postures that will result in a subordinate
attitude. Begin to stand tall, look people in the eye, and walk like you
mean business.
3. Embrace Enterprise
Do not simply step
outside of your comfort zone; make your lifestyle completely outside of
the comfort zone. The alpha personality lives in the uncomfortable zone.
Enterprise has been defined as: “An undertaking, especially one of some
scope, complication, and risk.” Strive to be described by others as a
“risk-taker.” There are very few worthwhile rewards that come without
risk.
4. Stop Following; Start Leading
How do you jump
that fence? If you have started doing the first three points, then you
are already over the fence. People will follow those who have a clear
vision and audacity to step out toward an new venture. The fascinating
thing about becoming a leader is that the moment you decide to take
control of your own life, you have become a leader—a leader for
yourself. This is the first act in ceasing to be a follower. The alpha
personality leads him or herself first and foremost. Beginning to lead
yourself will inevitably begin to lead others.
5. Delete “No” From Your Vocabulary
See
the possibility in everything. Develop the determination and grit to
never leave a problem without a resolution. The alpha personality is a
problem solver. Problem solvers are sought after and continually looked
to for help. Regardless of what field you are in, never resign to
thinking something cannot be done.
6. Smile
Convey charm
and charisma. Humans have a fascinating mechanism called
“mirror-neurons.” We naturally reflect and take on the vibes and actions
of the person we are engaged with. If you are able to make others feel
great, you will be the kind of person that others want to spend more
time with, and subsequently be more influential.
7. Bounce the Bystander Effect
There
was a tragic event in New York in 1964 that spawned the name for this
syndrome. A woman was murdered and though her screams were heard, nobody
called the police. Everyone assumed that someone else would do it! The
alpha personality does not wait for anyone else to get the job done. If
you see any situation that needs to be resolved, step in and do it
without hesitation.
8. Dress to Impress
We have all
heard the phrase, “don’t judge a book by its cover.” Impossible. Unless
you just happen to have the ability to jump inside someone’s mind and
read their personality, your cover and the way you dress is going to be
exactly what people judge you by, whether you like it or not. In fact,
the way you dress is very much an expression of your personality. The
alpha personality is sharp and slick with no room for any fluff. You
should be very comfortable with a photo of you being put on the front
cover of Success magazine.
9. Find a Mentor
Indeed
the apple does not fall far from the tree. Every great athlete has a
coach. Every successful businessman has a mentor. Seek out the person
who embodies the alpha personality that you desire and begin to learn
from them. Do not be afraid to reach out; give them a call or send them
an email.
10. It Is Confidence, Not Arrogance
There is a
fine line, but if it is crossed, your alpha personality can go from
being admired to being despised. Your success is very much dependent
upon your rapport with people. Be direct, but not demeaning. Be bold,
but not brash.
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