EMBRACING YOUR SINGLENESS

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Being single can be lonely, hard and scary. It can be difficult making every decision in life all by yourself, going through a strenuous activity all by yourself can seem boring, having fun alone can seem depressing and putting your heart on the line and having it rejected can be devastating. Being single can also be satisfying, simple and exciting! It has always been wonderful spending as much time alone as I wanted though it's a choice. Singleness is a gift from God, a blessing-if you choose to see it that way. That doesn't mean you give up hope or you will never get married. It just means you embrace the season of life God has you in and enjoy it to the fullest until He brings a new season with new blessings. Through heartache, turmoil and tears God has taught me valuable lessons that is helping me enjoy my singleness for as long as it will last. Since we are friends here, I will share my tips so you can enjoy the season too.

 1. Shift Your Mindset About What Being Single Means To You: Growing up we get messages from families, friends, society and media about love and marriage. Most women have been looking forward to their wedding since they were little and most of these women believe that when you are single, then you are lonely and miserable which isn't true. You decide what is true or not true for yourself which is the best part of being an adult. If you think that to be single means lonely, sad and miserable, then it will be for you but if you choose to see your singleness as an opportunity to grow as a person, then you will enjoy the season of your singleness.

 2. Don't Let Other People's Comments Get You Down: It really drives me crazy when people ask me if I am seeing anyone and I have to put on a fake smile to tell the "NO". It will be more frustrating if it's coming from your African parents, it doesn't matter where you are in your life, you are going to get this kind of question. You can't control the questions but you can make a conscious right now, not to let these questions affect your sense of self. Bottom line is don't ever let someone's off-handed comment ruin your day or make you feel less. 

 3. Do The Things You Are Supposed To Do Now, Don't Wait To Be In A Relationship: Don't put off your dreams or goals based on your relationship status. You can't assume that things will be easier or better because you are doing it with a partner. We tend to believe that things are automatically "better" when we are in a relationship. It is not better or worse...it is only different, and different isn't a good enough reason not to go out and live your best life right now. 

 4. Always Remember You Are Enough Either Alone Or In A Relationship: Honestly it feels good when you are in a relationship, it validates you and reminds you that someone out there likes you and wants to spend time with you. The thing is you are who you are in a relationship or out of a relationship. You have to remember that you are special and lovable and just because you are single doesn't negate your value as a person.







By: Ibukunola Awosanya
Fb: Awosanya Oreoluwa   Ig: @awosanyaibukunola

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