MISCONCEPTION ABOUT MARRIAGE

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It's interesting how many people start to dream about their wedding at a young age. Women in particular seem to be very anxious about their wedding than any other thing. Depending on our dreams and experiences, we may either have a romantic or bleak view of marriage. I'll share some misconceptions about marriage that I think most of us have based on research: 1. Marriage Is Just A Life Stage: Some of us see marriage as another phase of life. Just like when we were young, we had to go to school or learn a trade and after we are done with that, we get ourselves a good job and we get married and give birth. Looking at it from this perspective, marriage is merely a rite of passage to adulthood and this may affect our attitude towards it. 2. Marriage Makes Us Complete: Couples often call their spouses their other half, but to think of another person completing us has an obvious limitation. It literally means that before we are married or if we are single, we are only "half a person". The truth is not until you get to the state of being totally whole, unique and separate with the knowledge that you don't need anyone to complete you, and then you are not ready to marry. 3. Marriage Will Automatically Make You Closer AS A Couple: Yea, it will make you more closer but that will happen if the individuals in the marriage are open to be closer. 4. Getting Married Will Solve Problems of Trust and Insecurity: Issues of trust in a relationship is serious, nothing outside of hard work and attention is needed to save a relationship will suffice. Marriage won't solve trust issues. 5. You Can Change Your Partner: You can never change your partner, you can only change yourself but however, you can help them to become the better version of themselves and that can only happen if they are willing to. Always place the focus of change on the things you can change. 6. Your spouse is responsible for making you feel better. Feeling good is an individual choice; no one has the right to make you feel good or any better. If you are expecting someone to make you feel good or any better, then you are giving room to be hurt because at a point in time they will take advantage of the fact they only can make you feel better. 7. Kids will improve your marriage. The truth is kids in marriage will do little or no change in your marriage. By: Ibukunola Awosanya IG:@awosanyaibukunola Facebook:@Awosanya Oreoluwa

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