THINGS TO CONSIDER BEFORE ENTERING A RELATIONSHIP

A relationship can seem very enticing but are you truly ready to enter into one? Let's explore this topic and break it down Relationships are cute. You get to face every adversity and tackle every one of life's puzzles with a partner. But in turn, that comes with certain compromises to the current life as you know it. It is easy to get so enthused about the idea of a relationship that we don't take into account, the shift our lives go through. It's important to separate the person you enjoy having fun with from the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, which is what's assumed when you enter into a relationship. The dates, laughs, meeting of family etc can all guise under the term of dating still, but deciding to make things serious is saying she is the type of person you can see yourself with for a long time. Sometimes it's you that will get this concept and not her, and that may mean you have to let someone go because you respect that you don't want to be someone you are not or lie about where your heart is. So before you change your Facebook status to “In a relationship"? Here are things you need to consider: 1. Get Involved For The Right Reasons: One of the simplest questions to ask yourself is why you want a relationship in the first place. Is it because you really like this person, or are you trying to distract yourself from other problems? I must tell you I do this most of the time. I mean I mostly go into relationship because I’m trying to distract myself from a issue and not because I love the person involved and I must tell you the truth, I always end up getting hurt. Some other wrong reasons why people go into a relationship are agreeing to go out with them just because he is more invested in it than you are and is making you feel guilty, starting a new relationship only because all of your friends are dating someone and being with someone just to feel secure with a partner rather than for the feelings you have for that particular guy. So how can you make sure you that you are not jumping into things too quickly? 1. Go out with a couple of people to ensure that the relationship is what you want. 2. Know How Long You Can See Yourself With Person: I am are not saying you have to be ready to marry this guy or girl, but are looking for a short term fling or do you want something serious and long-term?. How long you see yourself being with a person determines how much time and energy you are going to want to put into the relationship, so it is important to figure out! 3. Make Sure You Know What Your Potential Significant Other Wants Too: As essential as it is to know where you stand, it's just as crucial to make sure you have been talking with your beau and know what he or she is looking for too. A breakdown of communication early on in a relationship is dangerous, so chat with your partner about the state of your relationship often. 4. Know If You Have Enough Time For A Relationship: To state the obvious, relationships take a lot of time and energy, so if you don't think you can give a serious time commitment to your "LOML", you may want to reconsider whether or not to date him or her. After all, dating is not about going on actual dates (which do take up quite a bit of time). There's all of the texting and calling you'll be doing, the events you'll be going together, and just the general amount of time it takes to get to know another human being. 5. Know What Sacrifices You're Willing To Make: Building on whether or not you have enough time for a relationship, how much time for other things are you willing to give up for your significant other? Are you willing to spend most of your night talking with him/her on phone when you are supposed to be on bed resting against the next day job? After all, just because you have the time doesn't mean you want to be using it. Are you willing to change who you are to match up the type of person he wants you to be or the type of woman he likes. Bottom line is, getting into a relationship can be scary, exciting and difficult all at the same time. By taking a step back and asking yourself some crucial questions, you can avoid some heartbreak and have a much healthier relationship from the start. CC: Lily Herman By: Awosanya Ibukunola IG: @awosanyaibukunola Facebook: @Awosanya Oreoluwa