How Loyalty can be manifested in relationship

 Loyalty is a powerful thing. Even the word itself can stir people to fervent heights of emotion. When we see life as a story, we want the characters near and dear to us to be ones we can trust. Loyalty per most souls is knowing someone has your best interests at heart even one might say especially when those interests run counter to what you think you desire but truly don’t. In a romantic relationship, loyalty goes far beyond fidelity or even compatibility if one measures compatibility by longevity.

When one person knows, despite mistakes and missteps that the other is truly loyal, they can remain friends even after they’re no longer romantic. There’s a fair amount of self-sacrifice in loyalty that often goes unremarked as it should. Loyalty doesn’t seek overt recognition. True loyalty is a tacit agreement of respect. It is knowing that there’s nothing someone close to you says or does toward you that is not out of love.

Here is how loyalty can be manifested in a relationship

Honesty: A loyal partner is going to be honest with you even when it hurts one or both of you to do so. This is not brutal honesty, it’s soul honesty. When your partner knows that what comes out of your mouth is powerful enough to move mountains if it had to the sense of security and loyalty in the relationship rests on very solid bedrock. 

Give Of Yourself: In a relationship, loyalty means “you’ll take time for me and I’ll take time for you.” It means giving freely of yourself to fulfill needs the other may never know they have or may never even voice. It means “I give myself to you” in an act not merely of faith but very much grounded in acts, the proof of loyalty is the quality of treatment received because loyalty as a word falls quickly and easily from a lot of people who hope to use it as a distraction from their deficiencies.

Receiving Grace: Loyalty actually makes many people uncomfortable. They feel that someone being loyal to them places a burden of certain behaviors on them rather than deal with this discomfort, they close themselves off from feeling worthy.  In essence, they become miserable and hope others might commiserate in that misery but loyalty does not mean sticking around to see how misery plays out. Loyalty evolves gracefully in a fully-realized relationship. Just as loyalties to the external world shift and change intimate loyalties experience new states of being on a constant basis. It is a grace to be able to flow with these states and dance with them rather than being tripped up by them.

Sexual And Emotional Loyalty: There are many different flavors of interpersonal relationships particularly in the sexual arena. Monogamous, polygamous, polyamorous all have their points of loyalty and the best way to be loyal within each is to talk about loyalty. Even emotional loyalty needs to be discussed within this realm because one relationship might be quite open as far as physical encounters but will draw the line at feelings of longing and attachment. The key to maintaining sexual and emotional loyalty is communication. Once boundaries are discussed the requirements of loyalty come into play.

Step Up: There are times when we must stand beside or even in front of someone to defend them when they are troubled or weakened. If this is done without hesitation or an overt demand for retribution, you have a relationship wherein loyalty is a core value. You may never have to face your own version of accompanying someone to mount doom but loyalty means stepping up for someone standing in for them when need be and allowing them on your shoulders to let them know love and support are what to expect from you.

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