HOW TO GET OVER JEALOUSY IN RELATIONSHIPS

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Jealousy can be a powerful and painful emotion, and this negative emotion can end almost any relationship. If left untreated, jealousy can create a permanent wedge between you and your partner, while negatively affecting future relationships.

 Where Does Jealousy Come From?

 Jealousy basically arises from insecurity within oneself and not trusting your partner.

In fact, envy and jealousy are similar. However, jealousy involves a sense of possessiveness and entitlement whereas an envious person covets what another person possesses–their possessions, positions, privileges or who they are as a person (their looks).

A jealous person holds on tightly to what they already have–usually their romantic partner– to keep others from taking this person away.

When envy and jealousy get out of control, it can be highly destructive.

How To Get Over Jealousy?

 
Jealousy in a relationship can be healed. How a couple deals with jealousy and other conflicts is vital to their success.

Openly sharing your feelings about being insecure or uncertain in your relationship begins the conversation.
 

Remember

  • Speak from your heart
  • Avoid justifying your actions,
  • Don’t make accusations
  • Don’t be confrontational

 
It is OK to talk about your concerns, your doubts and your desires. View this time of tension as an opportunity for open communication and expansion of understanding for both partners.

How To Handle A Jealous Partner In a Relationship

Having a jealous partner can be exhausting. There is only so much possessiveness, control and questioning you can take. There are things you can do to encourage a healthier relationship. Here are a few tips:

Listen to your partner with new ears to hear all of their concerns

If you know certain behaviors trigger your partner’s jealousy, change them if you can

Point out what you most appreciate about him or her, and offer reassurance that you are committed to the relationship

Tell your partner what you most want in your relationship. Don’t just say, “I want you to stop being jealous!”

Keep in mind it takes both people to make a great relationship. However, if your partner isn’t willing to change or get help, you can make changes in yourself that will greatly impact your life for the better.



By: Taiwo Atinuke

cc: centerstone.org

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